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Ones About Surrogacy

Often, the choice to become a gestational surrogate impacts other people in your life that you care about. If you're considering starting a conversation with your loved ones about surrogacy, we are here to help inform from a professional, compassionate standpoint.These letters can serve as a starting place from which to begin your own dialogue about your surrogacy journey, and open the door to sharing your decision with confidence.

Looking to learn more about other topics related to surrogacy? Check out our blog for articles on same-sex parenting, IVF treatment, amd stress reduction. Many children who learn they were born through surrogacy express a desire to meet their surrogate mothers. This is a personal choice and something you should be ready to discuss with your child as they discover how they were born

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To Your Biological Children

Wow, do I love you!

You made my life so wonderfully different, and I became the luckiest Mom in the whole world the day you were born.still remember the first day I met you. That dayIt was full of a kind of love that I thought no other Mommama could possibly feel. You were tiny, mighty, and ready to make us a family full of joy and special memories!

Mom would like to talk with you about an important decision that would help another family have this same feeling. There are families who want so much to hold their own baby the same way I held you, and they need a Mama like me to make sure their baby grows healthy and strong. I did such a good job making YOU healthy and strong, right?

I’d like to help another family have a baby, a family like ours who can’t do it without Mom’s help, well, OUR help. I would definitely be needing your help!

This would not be Mom’s baby, but I would carry it in my tummy just like I carried you. When the baby is ready to be born, the parents would be there so they could hold the baby and start being that little baby’s parents. This is called surrogacy, which is a big word for helping another family have a baby by carrying it for them in my belly.

They wouldn’t be your brother or sister, but you would be their guardian angel while they grow in Mom’s belly. WeI would make sure this baby was healthy and strong, so they could go live with their Mom and Dad after they’re born. The only thing that would change in our lives together would be the size of Mom’s belly!

You are so special and wonderful, and I’m lucky to be your mom. I’d like you to be a part of me making such an important decision, and I’m here to answer any questions you might have.

I love you so much!

Mom

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To Your Significant Other

I’d like to talk with you about a decision I am considering.

I want to become a surrogate mother.

I know it might feel overwhelming to hear, but this is a safe, loving way to help a couple start their family, while helping us financially prepare for our own future. I would love your support on this journey, and here is what I want to share:

This would not be my biological child.

I would carry an embryo conceived through IVF, and my body would make sure that embryo grows into a strong and healthy pregnancy. The baby and I would not be related., and you would not become a parent.

Surrogacy is safe.

I would have professional medical guidance throughout this entire process, which has been practiced for over 40 years. In addition to specialized prenatal care, I’d receive dietary, emotional and psychological support every step of the way.

There are laws to protect me.

Surrogacy is governed by strict legal requirements for both myself and the agency I would work with. I would be protected with legally-drawn contracts and scheduled access to my escrow payments during pregnancy.

I help choose the parents.

I would have a say in which parents I am matched withare chosen for the child I carry. This is something I would love your support in, as we can make this decision together.

Medical care would be fully covered.

This would not be an expense for us. Every bit of care I receive would be covered by the agency, and I would never be billed for any medical visits, prescriptions, or procedures.

I will be taking safe medication.

As a surrogate, I will need to take medication to help the baby develop safely and to stay healthy. These medications are safe for me and for the baby. Hormone injections administered by medical professionals will help my body prepare for a safe pregnancy. This is something important for you to know as I would like your support while I do this.

I will be paid well.

The things we have dreamed of being able to do, but could not afford, would be possible. Debt could be paid off. We could take the vacation we have always dreamed of, finally get a new car, or even start a small business. The compensation I’d receive would change our lives, and I’d like to share that excitement with you.

Thank you for hearing me out. This is a big decision, and one I want to consider with your love and support behind me.

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To Your Family

Wow, do I love you!

You made my life so wonderfully different, and I became the luckiest Mom in the whole world the day you were born.still remember the first day I met you. That dayIt was full of a kind of love that I thought no other Mommama could possibly feel. You were tiny, mighty, and ready to make us a family full of joy and special memories!

Mom would like to talk with you about an important decision that would help another family have this same feeling. There are families who want so much to hold their own baby the same way I held you, and they need a Mama like me to make sure their baby grows healthy and strong. I did such a good job making YOU healthy and strong, right?

I’d like to help another family have a baby, a family like ours who can’t do it without Mom’s help, well, OUR help. I would definitely be needing your help!

This would not be Mom’s baby, but I would carry it in my tummy just like I carried you. When the baby is ready to be born, the parents would be there so they could hold the baby and start being that little baby’s parents. This is called surrogacy, which is a big word for helping another family have a baby by carrying it for them in my belly.

They wouldn’t be your brother or sister, but you would be their guardian angel while they grow in Mom’s belly. WeI would make sure this baby was healthy and strong, so they could go live with their Mom and Dad after they’re born. The only thing that would change in our lives together would be the size of Mom’s belly!

You are so special and wonderful, and I’m lucky to be your mom. I’d like you to be a part of me making such an important decision, and I’m here to answer any questions you might have.

I love you so much!

Mom